I accidentally deleted my query and the two answers that followed when I tried to add some pictures of the bedroom furniture, so I'll try again. My apologies to the people who answered. I hope you weigh in again, because I didn't get to read your comments.
The big problem I have is whether or not to change my custom made solid wood headboard for an upholstered one, which clearly seems to be the trend today.
I still like the shape of my headboard, but the colours that were painted on the hand carved floral detail to match the drapes are no longer suitable for the neutral grey/beige palette I want now. Also, the pickled pine look is too 'country' for my taste today.
Refinishing my headboard or making a new fabric one is almost the same price, so that isn't a consideration. If I keep the present headboard, I don't know what finish would be appropriate and would give me a modern and sophisticated look, while still keeping a bit of a tradtional feel. I guess I am looking to be somewhat eclectic.
The desk was also custom made and hand carved, and the chair had a whimsical trompe l'oeil ribbon painted on the frame, and trailing down the legs. The chair will be re-upholtered in a silvery grey and off-white pattern, and will also be refinished. The night stand on the opposite side of the bed was painted in a faux marble, with gold painted stylized 'paws' at the bottom. I like a bit of whimsy, so I would like to keep that piece, although I don't think it shows well in the picture. It is also very serviceable with its three deep drawers.
There is an armoire opposite the bed which is definitely going. I am planning on having a large unit made which will look like a built-in, with space for a good sized wall mounted TV. It will probably be white. My armoire was built to house the old deep square TVs, and is too bulky for today's look.
Please don't hesitate to criticize what you see. I am looking for honesty as well as advice. I do want to keep the desk and chair, but just refinish them, although I am not sure how. Lacquer? Stain? My biggest dilemma is with the headboard. Refinish it? if so, how? Get a new unpholsterd one? Square? Square with scooped corners? Nailheads? Domed at the top? Quilted? Smooth? So many choices....I am totally stymied.