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AMN Painting the body white and using white trim is going to do the opposite of softening the black windows.

Pick a medium-toned color that goes nicely with the roof and apply it to both the body and the trim.

Less contrast between the windows and the other elements will soften the look.

AMN Here's one.

suz1956 Thank you so much for your input, really appreciate it

suzpink I have seen a house today with a look of the windows I was looking for - what do you think!

The Color People The house will feel happier working better with the natural colors of the yard and the brown of the wood porch base and stairs. These elements are integral parts to the house and need to feel included in the overall scheme.

If you like a white house use a softer off white so it is not so stark although a light color like a yellow of tan of khaki would work with the wood better. The house would really be helped by adding trim around the windows as the black windows really contrast a lot. You will want to use a lighter color for the window trim but not white because you want to soften the starkness of the black. Also paint the fascias and porch element in the trim color as well to make the house feel cohesive.

Finally if you put shrubs across the front of the porch it would make the house feel grounded and a whole lot more like is belongs to the lot.

TJP Designs and Construction LLC Not white trim, that would make the windows pop even more! AMN had a nice color suggestion photo above!!!!

lessismoore It looks like the house is currently painted white and "if" you have wood trim around the black frame windows, it is also painted black. Based on the 2nd photos you posted, of the trim/paint work you liked,l think you could have the window trim painted a "cream" color, and paint the house a tone of khaki/taupe.
Here is a combo (black color is meant to match windows, not to paint) which might work